He slept with two girls before our marriage. Should I forgive him ?
Today i found out now there are two girls he is talking to. He says theres nothing. But he talked to them at nights. I have decided to file for divorce. I just cant do this anymore. Yeah I dont want to reconcile. He is like they knew I was married I have not crossed any limits. It was just platonic and all. My point is despite all this talking at nights 2 baje 3 baje kitna bhi platonic ho is not justified
This is emotional cheating if he was even talking to them to vent out. My parents don’t seem to get this. I want to file for divorce now but I know they will blame me. My point is despite all this talking at nights 2 baje 3 baje kitna bhi platonic ho is not justified.
I asked my husband to give their number to me. He denied. He said for once trust what I say and they have a personal life and that they dont know me and all so he can’t give me their number. Its all excuses. No I didnt get to read any message. He has been talking on phone. Message hoga bhi toh no idea deleted hai. I am anyways in another city.
Admin: How did you get to know he is talking ?
I cornered him into telling me. His phones were busy and I used to think bhaiya se baat kar rha hoga late night as he is in LA in US. But he told me his family is not talking and bhaiya se 5 month se baat nahi hui. So I asked your phone was busy late nights. Kiskey saath. He said friends. I said which friends. He said some random friends. I told him send me call record. Then I told him come out clean if you want a fresh start. Agar kuch h toh bata do. Koi bhi ladki dost kissi se b baat hua h toh tell me Or send me call records. Then he said do ladkiyo se baat hua h. Ap….va and ar…i
I told him never heard name of these girls. They are not in your friend circle
Who are they. He was like college friends hain. That day I told him number dena h abhi do before you talk to them and get your stories straight
But those girls knew he was married everybody knows so they must be also at fault. They would all have got their stories straight. He was like for once I wanted you to trust me and trust on my face value ye wo. But my friends and family is saying kuch matt karo abhi. See if he tries to reconcile. Tab bolna number dey Dono ka.
Ask him to send the screen shots of the chat if it’s platonic then he should not be scared to. I am sure he must have deleted it already. And phone p baat hui h insey. Let him reach out to me. Then I will tell him okay screenshots bhejo
Ya id password do. Then I will ask him baat karaao. Last resort threaten the girls
One of the girl replied. They had matched on tinder in 2019. Hooked up twice. Not college friends. He had been in touch with them. But not after marriage. But abhi few months back he reached out to her. Told her he is seperated. Never told due to drinking issue. Said we have had our fights
Nothing can be repaired. And its all downhill. But he literally cheated me before marriage. Now I dont know the reazlity anymore. I am divorcing him. I cant trust him ever again. He never accepted it until I cornered him. Told him I know Who she is. Usko laga I am just guessing. But then I told details. Tab sab bataya. And I told him issliye number nahi diye because reality aage aa jata . You fu*king kept cheating me and now I dont know tu inn 6 months mey apart kya kiya h. I am unable to take anything any word he said. I am unable to sleep or eat.I am under constant sense if doom and sadness. And under anxiety and heavy heart beats
I dont know how I am gonna get through this. I know I am strong but dont feel like I have the capacity to take it. Its just a fu*king marriage I am done thinking about society and log kya sochenge
My dad is still blaming me. But thats just him he is never gonna accept yhe divorce. He was like you moved out hence he did all that. And people dont understand unkey liye 2.5 years ki shaadi h mere liye relationship commitment 2017 se h. 2019 mey cheat kiya bataya nahi dhokey se shaadi kiya
Fir unn ladkiyo se insta p contact mey rha and reached out again.
He is now accepting his mistake after I found out and now he wants a chance after all this. He is still trying to emotionally manipulate so I blocked him from everywhere. He is like I will spend my life taking the blunt from you I know 10-20 saal mey bus gussa jayega tumhara but I will love you selflessly tum sirf mere saath khush reh sakti ho… i will dedicate my life to love you and make you happy and take the pain ye wo bukwaas. Ye sab 2-4 din ka h. Wo fir justify kar lega ego aa jayega sab bukwaas effort apology band kar dega. So I just blocked him dont wanna hear his nonsense now. If he is guilty (at all) let him be guilty now. Not gonna remove his guilt by giving him a chance to rectify.
He is asking for a second chance. He says he will leave job and go to rehabilitation for 6 months 1 year however much it takes. He will give me his phone call records passwords social media logins. He says he will do anything to make things right. He called my friends and parents and asked for apology for being a shit husband and asking for a second chance. My parents and his parents want me to come home for Diwali and talk it out and consider giving a chance and starting fresh. He is like if you want to file for divorce file it but not wave the 6 months restitution period and try to see if he changes and if he doesnt I can go ahead with the divorce. I am confused and not sure what to do. Some friends say give a second try and some friends are advising against it. Do you think people change? Is there scope change here? I know after all its my call at the end but I feel he is a Narcissist and he is even admitting that he has narcissistic traits… so perhaps I am not thinking straight.