So, I have an arranged marriage of 6 years and have 2 daughters, my husband is nice, used to support and care for me a lot, but having his mother as a single parent and an arthritis patient, he was more biased towards her every time. After 3 months, I felt that I was targeted mentally and emotionally by my mother in law (mil) and sister in law (sil), and on complaining, as usual he used to scold me only, saying that I should understand. Now a month ago, his mother died, and since he was very much attached, he is not able to get over it easily, but his sister, on the very next day, started blaming me for her mother’s death, and took all the papers of our house and keys of locker, and my jewelry and everything, saying that I won’t be able to take care of that, so she will. Now she’s manipulating my husband that he should give all the remaining controls of our house to her, and I was showing only fake concern, if I was that true, I shouldn’t have fought with his mother. I mean, c’mon, every saas-bahu has their fights, doesn’t mean you would want either of them to die, and she died because of pneumonia. Nobody was there for me or my kids, when I needed them the most, but when she was in hospital, none of us knew that this would happen, so only me and my husband were there all the time, crying and praying, even her daughter used to come for just 1 hour max. Now, we are living separately, he is staying with his sister at her house and I’m at my mother’s, with my kids.

I am not able to face anybody now. Idk what has happened to my husband in this 1 month, that he is only insulting me in front of everybody that maybe I’ve tortured his mother a lot, only on the words of his sister. I’ve even heard one of her conversations, where she was saying that we shouldn’t all sleep together since it’s suffocating to sleep with 2 kids on a bed, so we should sleep in different bedrooms with each kid, and her mother came into her dreams saying that she should keep the keys to our house, and I should leave the house and all the things associated with her, only because I used to have arguments with her mother. I’m really confused as to what to do. My husband was never like this. Atleast he was sensible enough to know what’s right or not, if not take sides. I’ve asked him to take a divorce, when he said that he’s only living for his sister and daughters, and he agreed. Yeah a month, but I feel that mental torture I’ve faced in those 6 years, where my parents were abused and not allowed into my house, where I was pushed back in my 1st pregnancy, their language, where they almost threw away my 2nd daughter because she’s a daughter, i was even being threatened that they’ll make a police complaint stating I’ve tried to kill my mil, 3 months after my marriage, I cannot even explain what I went through, maybe the timing is very wrong, but I couldn’t just stand it anymore. I broke down that even if I’m that bad, then leave me, and let me live. My husband is def nice but he never took a stand, we never lived a normal married life, so I don’t expect him to take a stand now. He would never consider taking counselling. Never. Because again, whenever he used to, his mother used to cry ki mai toh akeli hu, tere papa bhi nahi hai, toh tu mujhe suna raha hai. She used to do that emotional drama. Not even once in our 6 years, we were allowed to keep our room’s door closed. And may sound cringe, but there are a lot of things which I cannot even tell, where in my period stuff was shown to my brother, and not just that, I cannot forget how our press vala, driver, maids even knew about it.

He doesn’t believe in all that. And he doesnt want a divorce, it’s just me who’s asking him to. Because it feels so depressing, I feel if I’m stuck already, I feel suffocated all the time. So, islie just gonna wait for a month, let the time do it’s work, let’s just see if things go fine by itself.

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